Are you on the fence about staying with your current girlfriend? If you can't decide whether to stay or go, ask yourself the following:
Are you Happy? That's the bottom line. Regardless of anything else, it is important that you be generally happy in a relationship.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide what to do. If you want to stay you should try to make the relationship better. If you don't think improvement is possible, you are better off moving on.
If you do break up with your girlfriend, you can expect you will be unhappy for a while. It will be better for your long-term happiness, though, if you let go of a bad relationship now so you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.
Could you Be Happy? Maybe you aren't happy right now but your relationship is usually pretty good. This can be a bad period that you and your girlfriend are in. If you think this is just a temporary situation, especially if there have been some big life changes happening that you are having to adjust to, you may want to hang on a while longer.
On the other hand, if there is nothing new in your life and no changes, you need to take a long hard look at your relationship. If your happiness is dwindling, it is unlikely to come back up for no reason. You don't want to stay in a bad relationship in the hopes it will improve. It's smarter to let go and wait for a healthier relationship.
Have you discussed the problems with your girlfriend? It's entirely possible that she does not know you are unhappy enough to be considering leaving. Sometimes people can fool themselves that there are not big problems, and they sweep issues under the rug. If you bring the truth up with your girlfriend, and are honest with her about how you feel, she may decide to try to fix things. That is a chance that she deserves, and you'll feel better giving her the opportunity.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
Are you Happy? That's the bottom line. Regardless of anything else, it is important that you be generally happy in a relationship.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide what to do. If you want to stay you should try to make the relationship better. If you don't think improvement is possible, you are better off moving on.
If you do break up with your girlfriend, you can expect you will be unhappy for a while. It will be better for your long-term happiness, though, if you let go of a bad relationship now so you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.
Could you Be Happy? Maybe you aren't happy right now but your relationship is usually pretty good. This can be a bad period that you and your girlfriend are in. If you think this is just a temporary situation, especially if there have been some big life changes happening that you are having to adjust to, you may want to hang on a while longer.
On the other hand, if there is nothing new in your life and no changes, you need to take a long hard look at your relationship. If your happiness is dwindling, it is unlikely to come back up for no reason. You don't want to stay in a bad relationship in the hopes it will improve. It's smarter to let go and wait for a healthier relationship.
Have you discussed the problems with your girlfriend? It's entirely possible that she does not know you are unhappy enough to be considering leaving. Sometimes people can fool themselves that there are not big problems, and they sweep issues under the rug. If you bring the truth up with your girlfriend, and are honest with her about how you feel, she may decide to try to fix things. That is a chance that she deserves, and you'll feel better giving her the opportunity.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
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